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Thank you, everyone, for your beautiful and earnest sharing regarding your views on happiness. I have learnt a lot from each one of you and have consolidated all my concepts, which I will share with you next week.
However, this week I want to put forward an important concept. Most people seems to be chasing happiness because they have made happiness a destination and not a companion.
If you make the destination or goal, you will reach the destination and achieve the goal. The moment you do that, you restart the journey in search of something that you associate with happiness.
How about being happy where you are? How about doing what you are doing with happiness? How about Making happiness your companion? How about making happiness a way of your life?
What could stop you from doing that?
What are your fears and concerns?
How would you address that?
I will give you a consolidated write up next week. Till then, please explore the answers to my above-mentioned questions.
When practically the whole world is claiming to strive for 'HAPPINESS'.... It may sound utterly silly to ask "What is happiness?" We seem to be knowing what is happiness. We seem to be clear how to be happy and we seem to be focused on 'Being Happy'
However the fact is, 'There are plenty of people who are still groping to get glimpses of happiness. There are enough number of people who are yet to discover a true state of happiness on an ongoing basis.'
At cerebral level, you may say that happiness is a choice one makes. However, have you made that choice?
Are you sticking to your choice to be happy on an ongoing basis?
Is there a particular advantage in being periodically unhappy?
Is there a reason why you have not yet felt consistently happy in your life?
You may feel that I am harping too much on this simple topic called Happiness. However, when I meet people and when I explore the subconscious mind of various people, the unanimous desire all of them have is HAPPINESS.
I often wonder why would happiness evade periodically, when it is right under your feet? (As one of the members, Ms. Laila Ahmed answered last week.)
Ask yourself a question.
Are you happy?
Are you comfortable?
Are you comfortable as well as happy?
Are you neither comfortable, nor happy?
Several times, we do not even know if we are really happy or comfortable. We get so attached to the comforts of life that we forget being happy.
You love the comfort of your known set up. You know if you step out and explore the world, you may feel happier. However, you are too scared of loosing out on certain known comforts that your house hold set up offers.
You keep postponing your travel, outings, preferring to be at the same place most of the time.
You may not even know that your known set up gives you comfort and not necessarily happiness!
If at all you find yourself struggling to choose between the two, what is your next step?
How will you deal with this situation?
Figure out the answer and please share with us.
Looking forward to read your comments,
Lots of love,